I want to follow up on the thread of posts regarding gaslighting...
There are so many questions to ask: How do you recognize it? Is the gaslighter doing it on purpose? Is the gaslighter even aware that they are doing it? What do you do when you realize that there is a gaslighter in your circles? Why are they doing this (this was a big one for me)? What did I do to make them hate me this much? Maybe it is me?
You might wonder what staying active has to do with this... Well, yesterday I mentioned the importance of having a support system, somebody that knows you well and that you can speak frankly with. Another thing that is helping for me is staying physically active.
This is - for me - a way to distract myself from my thoughts for a little while because there are days when the questions above are all-consuming. In doing exercise, yoga, walking (especially in nature), running (I miss running) - for those 30-40-50 minutes your focus is on your breathing, on your movements, aches and pains in your body. Noticing improvements in strength or stamina in your body. It is "being physical" time, and it gives me a break!
Then of course there are these amazing other benefits of exercise: control my weight (awesome side-effect), improves mood, boosts energy, promotes better sleep, and it is fun!
If you are wondering if you are in a toxic relationship with a gaslighter, send me a message, comment below, share this message with someone that you know is to let them know they are not alone.