I want to follow up on the thread of posts regarding gaslighting...

There are so many questions to ask: How do you recognize it? Is the gaslighter doing it on purpose? Is the gaslighter even aware that they are doing it? What do you do when you realize that there is a gaslighter in your circles? Why are they doing this (this was a big one for me)? What did I do to make them hate me this much? Maybe it is me?

You might wonder what staying active has to do with this... Well, yesterday I mentioned the importance of having a support system, somebody that knows you well and that you can speak frankly with. Another thing that is helping for me is staying physically active.


​This is - for me - a way to distract myself from my thoughts for a little while because there are days when the questions above are all-consuming. In doing exercise, yoga, walking (especially in nature), running (I miss running) - for those 30-40-50 minutes your focus is on your breathing, on your movements, aches and pains in your body. Noticing improvements in strength or stamina in your body. It is "being physical" time, and it gives me a break!

Then of course there are these amazing other benefits of exercise: control my weight (awesome side-effect), improves mood, boosts energy, promotes better sleep, and it is fun!
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If you are wondering if you are in a toxic relationship with a gaslighter, send me a message, comment below, share this message with someone that you know is to let them know they are not alone.

​I posted a pretty depressing post about gaslighting. And, today - I want to share with you one of the things that has helped me through this: a support system, and this guy is my greatest supporter ❤

Have you ever wondered how your FRIENDS can affect your life balance? For instance . . .
• If you’re trying to get out of debt, do they pressure you to spend money on things you don’t need?
• If you’re dealing with a personal issue, do they tell you forgive and forget. Time heals all wounds?
• If you’re working on improving your marriage, do they give you unwelcome advice about how to handle your spouse?

Consider whether these are the actions of friends who support you – or toxic friends who subconsciously want you to stay stuck in the unbalanced life you’re living now.

When life is off-kilter, we find out who our real friends are. Not our coworkers at the office or the moms we see on the school run—but true, stick-with-you friends who make up an inner circle of supporters who care about you. That is what I have, and in many ways I was lucky enough to marry my best friend. We need more of these awesome friends in our lives.

As a Certified Oola Life Coach, one of the things I do is help you recognize toxic friendships, I give you a safe place to express how you really feel and we will - together - find a way to move forward from those relationships.

Don't let toxic people stay in you life. In Oola we Unfriend, Unfollow and Delete.

Why not message me and let’s talk? Achieve your best life with Oola Coaching. I would be privileged to work with you in getting there.