I want to follow up on the thread of posts regarding gaslighting...

There are so many questions to ask: How do you recognize it? Is the gaslighter doing it on purpose? Is the gaslighter even aware that they are doing it? What do you do when you realize that there is a gaslighter in your circles? Why are they doing this (this was a big one for me)? What did I do to make them hate me this much? Maybe it is me?

You might wonder what staying active has to do with this... Well, yesterday I mentioned the importance of having a support system, somebody that knows you well and that you can speak frankly with. Another thing that is helping for me is staying physically active.


​This is - for me - a way to distract myself from my thoughts for a little while because there are days when the questions above are all-consuming. In doing exercise, yoga, walking (especially in nature), running (I miss running) - for those 30-40-50 minutes your focus is on your breathing, on your movements, aches and pains in your body. Noticing improvements in strength or stamina in your body. It is "being physical" time, and it gives me a break!

Then of course there are these amazing other benefits of exercise: control my weight (awesome side-effect), improves mood, boosts energy, promotes better sleep, and it is fun!
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If you are wondering if you are in a toxic relationship with a gaslighter, send me a message, comment below, share this message with someone that you know is to let them know they are not alone.

​I posted a pretty depressing post about gaslighting. And, today - I want to share with you one of the things that has helped me through this: a support system, and this guy is my greatest supporter ❤

Have you ever wondered how your FRIENDS can affect your life balance? For instance . . .
• If you’re trying to get out of debt, do they pressure you to spend money on things you don’t need?
• If you’re dealing with a personal issue, do they tell you forgive and forget. Time heals all wounds?
• If you’re working on improving your marriage, do they give you unwelcome advice about how to handle your spouse?

Consider whether these are the actions of friends who support you – or toxic friends who subconsciously want you to stay stuck in the unbalanced life you’re living now.

When life is off-kilter, we find out who our real friends are. Not our coworkers at the office or the moms we see on the school run—but true, stick-with-you friends who make up an inner circle of supporters who care about you. That is what I have, and in many ways I was lucky enough to marry my best friend. We need more of these awesome friends in our lives.

As a Certified Oola Life Coach, one of the things I do is help you recognize toxic friendships, I give you a safe place to express how you really feel and we will - together - find a way to move forward from those relationships.

Don't let toxic people stay in you life. In Oola we Unfriend, Unfollow and Delete.

Why not message me and let’s talk? Achieve your best life with Oola Coaching. I would be privileged to work with you in getting there.

If last year taught us anything, it’s that we need stability, calm and balance in our careers.

Whether it’s working at a local company . . . raising amazing kids as a full-time parent . . . or running your own show with a business of your own, are you in a field you love, doing what you want to do?

Or do you need to make a change (including a change that the recent economic crisis has forced on you)?
Part of living a balanced, happy life is doing work that inspires and delights you: you’re good at it, you’re needed, and you love everything about the 6-10 hours a day you spend doing it.

If you’re not there yet in your worklife, I’d like to talk to you about ways to grow in your career, have more fun, show up in a bigger way, and finally make the kind of income you dream of.

As a Certified Oola Life Coach, I’ve teamed up with human-potential experts and bestselling authors Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl to bring you the 10-week Oola Coaching Program designed to help you achieve balance in all 7 major life areas: Fitness, Finance, Family, Field, Faith, Friends and Fun.

Career upgrades and business-building are two of the best reasons to work with a life coach. Without family pressure, opinions, or judgment, we can look at what YOU really want and how you might transition—safely and sensibly—into a situation that’s far better than the one you’re in now.

And, by the way? If this latest crisis has eliminated your job altogether, it may be the excuse you need to pursue the worklife of your dreams.

So why not message me to talk more about how coaching works to improve careers, businesses, full-time parenting—even pursuing volunteer work or philanthropy.

Your family is your inner circle—the people you should turn to in tough times, but also the people who turn to YOU for the same reason.
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Imagine a family life that’s blissful . . . happy . . . balanced.

Now, check in with yourself about your current family situation. Do you need to improve your marriage, calm a tense family situation, set better boundaries with the kids, or otherwise improve your closest family relationships?

One of the toughest things my coaching clients have to work through is a family situation that’s stressful, heartbreaking or at the tipping point of crisis. Even worse are those parents who are so stressed in other areas that they’ve “checked out” of their kids’ lives and future.

The good news is that it’s absolutely possible to create the kind of balanced, happy and supportive family life you want and deserve. While long-term goals take time and commitment, some immediate ways to improve your household atmosphere are to:


• Schedule a date night this Saturday with your spouse
• Have that “difficult conversation” with your aging parent
• Cook dinner as a family at least three nights this week
• Establish a calm morning routine for younger children
• Set boundaries with your argumentative brother

• ​• Plan play dates, regardless of age, with your children as well

• Schedule one day a week where phones and games are put away

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​If you need to show up differently and make some serious changes (in your family situation or any other category), I have good news: I’ve teamed up with Oola authors Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl to bring you a 10-week focused approach to creating a life that’s balanced, happy, and growing.

Don't just dream about the ideal life you want. Start living it with Oola Coaching. Click now (or message me)!
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In my continuing series about calming the overwhelm and creating balance in all 7 major areas of life, can we talk about a significant pain point for most people?

Yeah, it’s . . . money.
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If lately you’ve been stressed over credit card debt, fighting about household spending, or worried about how you’re going to pay your bills, you could probably use a lot more balance in the area of finances.

Of course, the recent economic upheaval hasn’t helped. But the reality is that some people sail through tough economic times with a healthy emergency fund, little to no debt, a side hustle that pays household expenses, and a lifestyle they can dial down at a moment’s notice.

For others, an economic crisis like this one is a wake-up call that their finances may not have been great to begin with.

If the past year has been an eye-opener for you, why not consider what you can do today to bring balance to your finances. Could you . . .
• Slash your expenses to absolutely necessary costs only?
• Sell unused items on Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace?
• Look for work-at-home gigs for extra money?
• Build a rainy-day savings account with just $100 to start?

Be Accountable for Your Financial Future

While a dire financial situation may seem impossible now, solid finances are possible if you create a plan and focus on making small steps regularly. Write down all your debts and start paying them off, starting with the smallest one. Start a second income stream to fund savings or retirement. Get investment help from a professional financial planner you trust. Talk with your spouse and kids about cutting back and saving up until you’re feeling better about your finances.

Then, seriously consider working with me privately to set financial goals and be accountable for reaching them. Helping people find balance and achieve life changes in every major area is something I do through a unique 10-week coaching program designed around the bestselling book and coaching formula: Oola.
Message me for details. Then let’s jump on a discovery call about what coaching can do for you.

​It’s February already, and if you celebrated New Year’s Day with a resolution to get healthier in 2021, I have a question: have you stayed on track with your fitness goals? 

One of the best outcomes of creating a balanced life is enjoying the basics: adequate sleep, nutritious food, time for exercise—plus bandwidth to handle longstanding conditions that cause pain, embarrassment or anxiety. 
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But you don’t have to arrive at the “ideal life” to enjoy vibrant well-being. Simply starting the journey toward being fit and healthy will boost your energy, immunity and brain function. And a daily walk around the neighborhood delivers noticeable results.

In the time that I’ve been a Certified Oola Life Coach working personally with bestselling authors Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl, I’ve discovered that taking action and staying committed to your goals will get you further – faster – than almost any other approach. 

Fitness is one area where this focus and commitment really pays off. 

To help my followers stay accountable to taking small steps toward their goals, I recently joined forces with Dave and Troy to deliver a 10-week coaching experience designed to transform your life, your finances, your relationships and more. Message me and we can jump on a call about it.

While the Oola coaching formula works to bring balance in 7 major life areas, I have to say: it rocks when it comes to meeting health goals, slimming down, and gaining the confidence that comes from being date-night ready. 

It can help you define the goals you want to achieve, and keep you accountable to doing those things every day that bring about the results you want. 

Check out Oola Coaching and work with me every week to find balance and calm the overwhelm in major life areas like finances, fitness, family, field (career) and more.

We set goals and have good intentions, but there never seems to be enough time, money or energy for achieving life’s biggest goals. Instead of making progress, our lives seem even more out of balance.

Well, for the next few weeks, I’d like to help you overcome the overwhelm and work on achieving balance in every major life category. How will we do that?

Using a strategy I learned from Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl, authors of the bestselling book, Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World: - identify where you’re out of balance, then jot down three tasks a day that will move you toward balance in that area of your life.
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Here’s an example:
If your finances are a mess and credit card debt is causing you extra stress, your to-do list might look like this:
1. Make a list of all debts in order of total amount due
2. Make an extra payment (today) on the smallest debt while still making minimum payments on the others
3. Investigate ways to make extra money to pay off all debt


START NOW: IDENTIFY WHERE YOU’RE OUT OF BALANCE

You CAN overcome the overwhelm. To start, identify your biggest stressor in each of “The 7 F’s of Oola” (below). Write down your list in a journal or on your smartphone, so you can refer back to it.

Are you out of balance in:
Fitness: Excess weight? Poor nutrition? Little exercise?
Finance: Crushing debt? No retirement plan? Too many bills?
Family: Need boundaries? Marriage on life support?
Field: Career stress? No free time? Low pay or benefits?
Faith: No real relationship with God? Need a daily practice?
Friends: Toxic friends that bring you down? Need mentors?
Fun: No time for fun? Waiting until you’re older or retired?

Whatever is stressing you, let’s work together to completely transform your life into one that’s balanced, happy and growing.

I’ve joined forces with Dave and Troy to bring my followers the Oola formula via a 10-week coaching experience designed to transform your life, your finances, your relationships and more.

Message me and we can jump on a call about it.
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Then stay tuned for the next few weeks for even more ways to bringing balance to your life . . . Oola style.

​​Studies prove that writing down specific goals will help some people achieve significantly more in their lives than people who never set goals in the first place. And, there is another important step: taking action.

One trick I’ve learned from human-potential experts Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl – authors of Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World – that makes taking action a whole lot easier is something they call “reverse-engineering your goal.”

It’s determining the exact actions you need to take that will create the income, build the network, lose the weight, or otherwise achieve the daily “wins” you need to meet your goal.
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Reverse-engineering is time-efficient, purposeful, and effective. It is almost like building Lego - one piece at a time but you always have the big picture in mind.
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How about YOUR goals? Whatever major breakthrough would change your life for the better, I’d be pleased to work with you to do the math, create a plan and take action every day to make that reality happen. Whether it’s financial sanity, a more fulfilling career, overcoming a major challenge, or something else, helping people find balance and create their dream lifestyle is what I do.


In fact, I’ve teamed up with Dr. Dave and Dr. Troy to deliver a coaching program that will help you achieve your own OolaLife – happy, balanced, and growing. Message me and we can jump on a free discovery call about it.
It only takes 10 weeks to make massive progress.